*This post takes a detour from the type of content I usually post. I know it gets into general life philosophy but I thought I’d share it anyways.
‘Only the mediocre are always at their best’ – Jean Giraudoux
Expectations can destroy a person. Figuratively.
How many times have you set out and committed to achieving something worthwile? And how many times have you failed? When did you actually reach your expectations, let alone exceed them? I know, the answer is rarely, because it’s happened to me aswell. Many times. We crave perfection, but fall short every time. Why?
The pursuit of perfection never ends. One is never left with what they desire. I’m talking in terms of personal attributes, achievements and the like. If you decide to take the road of self-actualization, be prepared for a bumpy ride. And I mean really prepared, like 6-spare-wheels prepared.
Why do I say this? Because along with pursuit of goals comes expectations. Expectations of success and brilliance. Amazing results each and every time we put our foot in the right direction. Imagine it did work out the way you wanted. Score an amazing ATAR, get into the university degree of your dreams, hit it big with the corporate world and strike millions. Imagine this happened for a second, you’d probably question it. So much success without a hitch?
I’d begin to count my days if I were that person. Something bad is bound to happen.
If this were the case than what happened to the concept of dunya and aakhira? Joy and happiness is relative. A 5 minute break for the brain surgeon is gold while a 1 month holiday for the unemployed is torture. Without pain and suffering, joy is seldom experienced.
Back to the pursuit of perfection.
When committing to goals, allow some room for error. In the words of Rocky Balboa, ‘ It’s not about how hard you hit, but how hard you get hit, and keep moving forward, how much you can take, and keep moving forward. ’
Be prepared to fall and stumble and slip and trip. Don’t be too harsh on yourself. It’s not about constantly winning. It’s about how you can get back up, learn from your mistakes and keep persisting. Repeated failures show you exactly what you should and shouldn’t do to finally hit success.
‘Ever tried. Ever failed. Never matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better’ – Samuel Beckett
Be ready to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move forward. Otherwise, those failed expectations will hold you back. As long as you’re moving forward, you’re doing something positive. Some times that rate will go exponential and at other times, it may dwindle. But never allow it to stagnate, or even worse, reverse into the opposite direction.
Have a positive attitude and a burning desire to progress. Know that as long as you find yourself in a state of increasing eeman, character, qualities and traits, you’re on the right track, and you’re winning.
‘And why do we fall, Bruce? So we can learn to pick ourselves up’ – Thomas Wayne